Comrade, are you a spare tire???
This is Alaba main market, one of the busiest market in Nigeria. Allow me to take you through the tale of the spare tire.
Me: Customer wetyn carry you come market.
Customer: Ah, madam! Na spare tire o
Me: I get am but e dey warehouse, abeg wait make I send my boy to go bring am. Obinna!!! Obinna!!!
Obinna: Ma!!! Jee wetara m spare tire na nke Oga Goddy (Go and get a spare tire from Oga Goddy’s shop)
Okay, enough of the scenario, let’s get right into why I wrote this blog post for you.
First of all, are you a spare tire? By that, I mean are you an option to someone? A love interest perhaps?
Do you know why spare tires exist? Well, I’ll tell you. They exist to fill up the space when the main tire is faulty or needs to be worked on.
So, my dear, I ask again, are you a spare tire to someone. They only call you when their girl/boyfriend is acting funny, or, they only chat you up on weekdays, and on weekends they go MIA. On lonely nights, they call you and you both talk for hours unend (you have work tomorrow o) when you need to talk to them, they come up with excuses or ignore you.
They probably tell you all the sweet things you want to hear and occasionally spoil you (when it is convenient for them). You both are not in a relationship but are doing relationship sturvs😎. You know that they will never ask you out, but you are in denial.
Don’t worry, salvation is here.
Some people are okay with being a spare tire while the rest are not. So if you are not okay with being a spare tire, leave.
But it’s not easy, is it? You will notice that when you want to let go of them, that’s when they shower you with the most attention and then you start contemplating giving them a second chance.
Uncle/Aunty, they won’t change because they know what they are doing. If you are not comfortable with being the spare tire, close your eyes and leave them. Strong your mind. I am challenging you to do that, I double dare you because I want to see you in a better place mentally.
Don’t get me started on all the times you spent, doubting your self-worth and cleaning your tears. Yes, I know because I am one of the redeemed.
So decide today to let go and if you don’t have the strength to do that, I have written another blog post that will show you a glimpse of what to expect when you keep accepting bread crumbs all in the name of “I love him/her” they don’t love you as much, move.
https://link.medium.com/oXHVYhvcJpb
#staywoke #stayselfish😈
