Dear 20 something-year-old: On self support.

Ada: I have always wanted a “tribe” or should I say my tribe you know, a group of women who love God, make and enjoy their money, a group filled with love, loyalty, and respect.
Me: *silent* (because I want that too)

Can you relate? Do you feel the same way? And if you don’t, that’s fine.

It’s good to surround yourself with like minds, people that inspire you to do and become a better version of yourself, oh how sweet it is. But then, you get inspired because you want to be inspired, some people are surrounded by goal-getters and all they do is pull them back. Instead of the whole pack winning, there is this particular individual who delights in being dragged along.

A man must stand erect, not be kept erect by others.
- Marcus Aurelius.

There was a time leaving the country was the rave of the moment in my school and still is and all I did was look for someone who will be my partner so we can work at it together. I found no one.
But let’s imagine I did find someone and we started working towards leaving the country, one day my partner decides she does not want to travel anymore, how do you think it will work out for me?
Well, two things are involved, either I leave the country or I let her get to me and decide not to leave the country as well.

What am I trying to say? It’s good to have a partner but beware of relying too much on people. When you rely too much on people become a recipient, a reactive human being, they make decisions and you follow through. It’s okay to ask for help, what’s not okay is being overly reliant on people.
They can pull the plug at any time and when they do, what do you think will happen?

So before you pray for God to give you a rich husband, remember you are not immune to the good things of life. Before you bill that guy, remember you can make money too. Before you blame your friend for not carrying you along with the plans you both made, remember nothing stops you from working on it alone.

You should have intrinsic motivation, external motivation is great and all but when push comes to shove and your external motivator is no longer there, guess what happens?👀

Take away the fear, believe in yourself, you can do this👍