Sugar Daddies of Lagos
I will be a good sugar daddy to you and I will not spoil you too much -Sugar daddy that never daddied.
If anyone had told me a year ago that I would sit down and hear a man old enough to be my father say this rubbish to me, I would have laughed and called it a bluff.
But alas, here I was sitting adjacent to this man who I used to admire and hearing him spew such cancerous words from his elderly lips. How? How will take a good look at me, my gravitas, and what I carry and choose to put me in the sugar baby box? Is my glory not glorying again, abi you have chosen to be blind to it?
I was promised heaven and earth. I was flattered and praised. And for a split second, I considered it. Being a sugar baby to this man meant access to his connections. At least, if I rub his belly like Genevieve Nnaji did in the Cot Girls movie, I would have him singing to the high heavens.
They say good girls take you to heaven but bad girls bring heaven to you, maybe this is what he thinks he would get—go to heaven? Who will do CPR to bring him back? Not me.
Then I thought to myself, I am a child of God. The God I serve owns this man, his connections, me, and the world. Why would I choose the creature over the creator? Temptations are tempting, little wonder they are called TEMPTATIONS.
I called my mother to explain the situation to her and she reiterated what she has always told me about how life is cruel and only the resilient thrive. This is followed with an undertone of ‘I know you know what to do’. My mother will always say that I am a child of a lioness so I roared and ran.
I ran as fast as my legs could carry me. The Bible says we should flee from such temptations. So I fled. I fled for the 30-year-old Chimnwendum who would look back at this incident and be proud she made the right decision. I fled for my unborn children who will be proud of her mother. I fled for my husband/LOML who will be proud to announce me as his woman because I only bring glory to him.
So flee young lady/man. Flee from beautiful temptations like this. I know you want to ball with the big boys but wealth gotten in haste will disappear in haste. Your time will come and when it comes, ask not for another’s body. Instead, let the wisdom and love of God guide you.
To you Sir, the sugar daddy that never daddied, my answer is NO. I am good.
