Think Big: 5 guides to being the bigger person.

There is magic in thinking big, but it is so easy to forget when you hit some rough spots, there is a danger that your thinking will shrink in size and when it does, you lose.

Below are some brief guides for staying big when you’re tempted to use the small approach. Perhaps you’ll want to put these guides on small cards for handier reference or somewhere you can easily see them.

A. When Little People Try to Drive You Down, Think Big.

Let’s be honest with ourselves, some people want you to lose, to experience misfortune, to be reprimanded to believe otherwise is to be realistically blind. But these people can’t hurt you if you’ll remember three things:

1. You win when you refuse to fight petty people. Fighting little people reduces you to their size. Stay big.

2. Expect to be sniped at. It’s proof you’re growing.

3. Remind yourself that snipers are psychologically sick. Be Big. Feel sorry for them, pray for them if you are feeling generous ( the Bible admonishes us to pray for our enemies) Read Matthew 5:44

4. Think Big Enough to be immune to the attacks of petty people.

B. When That “I-Haven’t-Got-What-It-Takes” Feeling Creeps Up On You, Think Big.

Remember: if you think you are weak, you are. If you think you’re inadequate, you are. If you think you’re second-class, you are.

Whip that natural tendency to sell yourself short with these tools:

1. Look important. How you look on the outside has a lot to do with how you feel on the inside.

2. Put other people in proper perspective. The other person is just another human being, so why be afraid of him?

3. Think Big Enough to see how good you are!

C. When an Argument or Quarrel Seems Inevitable, Think Big.

Successfully resist the temptation to argue and quarrel by:
1. Asking yourself, “Honestly, is this thing really important enough to argue about?”

2. Reminding yourself, that you never gain anything from an argument but you always lose something.

3. Think Big Enough to see that quarrels, arguments, feuds, and fusses will never help you get where you want to go.

D. When You Feel Defeated, Think Big.

It is not possible to achieve large success without hardships and setbacks. But it is possible to live the rest of your life without defeat. Big thinkers react to setbacks this way: Regard the setback as a lesson. Learn from it. Research it. Use it to propel you forward. Salvage something from every setback.

1. Blend persistence with experimentation: Back off and start afresh with a new approach.

2. Think Big Enough to see that defeat is a state of mind, nothing more.

E. When Romance Starts to Slip, Think Big.

Negative, petty, “She’s-(He’s)-unfair-to-me-so-I’ll-get-even” type of thinking slaughters romance, and destroys the affection that can be yours. Do this when things aren’t going right in the love department:
1. Concentrate on the biggest qualities in the person you want to love you. Put little things where they belong—in second place.

2. Do something special for your mate—and do it often.

3. Think Big Enough to find the secret to marital joys.

P.S: These ideas do not belong to me, this is a note I made years ago while reading a book. Unfortunately, I can’t remember which book it is, but I hope this edifies you as it did to me.