You are your hero

Chimnwendum
2 min readNov 17, 2023

No one has the power to make you feel bad unless you give them permission to do so.

Heroes are made not born.

Have you ever admired someone from afar, and when you have a conversation with them, you realize they don’t have sense?

You now have to go through the five stages of grief.

Denial: That is a lie. He couldn’t have said that.
Anger: Why did he say that?
Bargaining: Maybe I made him say that…
Depression: Oh no, I don’t like that he said that. How could he??
Acceptance: This man no get sense las las.

I have been there. It is especially painful when it is a senior colleague you hold in high esteem.

Back Story:

I once worked for a man I really admired who believed he alone could tell me how much I deserved to be paid. In his words, “Only I can tell you how much you are worth” Eskis me Sir, are you my father?

I am glad I didn’t let that get to me; I had years' worth of healthy self-esteem wall built for that.

The people we admire tend to have this weird effect on us; we believe everything they say and see them as geniuses.

Now that’s where the problem lies. We believe them, including the negative things they say about us. Don’t do that.

Anyone can say anything about you, but only you can accept THE things you want. Never forget that.

While it is important to celebrate and acknowledge those who have gone ahead of us, we must guard our hearts against the negative things they may decide to throw at us.

Have a fantastic weekend❤️

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Chimnwendum

Sharing lessons from stuff adulthood throws at me.